Self-Acceptance and it’s Impact on your Finances
Self-acceptance is the practice of accepting all facets of oneself- not just the lovely, positive parts we tend to use to feel good about ourselves, and we use to boost our self-esteem. It is about being honest with yourself and be in the truth of who you are. Self-acceptance means all of you, the parts you love and the parts you don’t.
As Robert Holden writes in his book Happiness Now! “Happiness and Self-acceptance go hand in hand. In fact, your level of Self-acceptance determines your level of happiness. The more Self-acceptance you have, the more happiness you’ll allow yourself to accept, receive and enjoy. In other words, you enjoy as much happiness as you believe you’re worthy of.”
This is as true for happiness as it is for money. When our self-acceptance is in flow our finances will be more inflow. When we are blocking self-acceptance and not living in our truth, we are blocking the flow of money into our lives. We may start overcompensating by purchasing things that bring us fleeting moments of happiness or hold ourselves back and prevent new financial opportunities because we feel unworthy of joy and abundance. We may also be living in delusion or non-reality silently in denial about the reality of our finances. If we aren’t in the truth of them we can’t begin to change them. When we are in self-acceptance we are not trying to be or act like someone we are not, therefore we are not spending our money in a way that is out of alignment with our truth.
How do we begin a practice of cultivating self-acceptance?
We need to begin with developing more self-compassion for ourselves. It is only when we begin to be loving and kind to ourselves that we can begin to better understand and forgive ourselves. Many of us are our own worst critics, we are too hard on ourselves, believing we don’t have the right to make mistakes. We may even have a hard time forgiving ourselves, so we are constantly living in a state of the past, carrying around wounds and anger continuing to punish ourselves particularly in regards to our finances. We may have a little sub-conscious voice in our heads that has us constantly living in our past, in our old money story or the money story of our parents.
When we begin to practice self-compassion, we can begin to love ourselves despite the financial decisions we have made in the past. We can forgive our mistakes and recognize them as lessons learned. We allow ourselves to live in the present instead of the past. We allow ourselves to tune into who we are today, not who or where we were in the past.
Moving forward, how to stay in self-acceptance while practicing self-improvement
Self-acceptance is not about “fixing” ourselves, it’s about unconditional love and acceptance of who we are and where we are at the moment. It lives in the present moment; self-acceptance is in the here and now.
With self-improvement we are more future-oriented, improving our tomorrow. Therefore we want to accept and honor where we are at today while making decisions that will benefit our future self. Self-improvement is a great thing and something we want to do alongside daily self-acceptance.
It’s about honoring where we are today on the way to where we are going.
Three ways to begin a practice of self-acceptance
- Practice self-compassion- be kind to yourself, quiet that harsh inner critic and instead of having a loving conversation with yourself. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a child or loved one.
- Embrace your imperfections, let go of your the need to be perfect or ideal. Think about all those you love despite their flaws and maybe even because of their shortcomings. Can you do the same for yourself?
- Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes, make a list of how you have grown and have become more resilient and a stronger person because of your past.
Remember self-acceptance takes time, this is not an overnight process. For many of us, we are creating a new way of thinking and loving ourselves that has been a foreign concept for years and maybe even a lifetime.
Love and Light,